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Apply a hug

Why does it do so much good to hug someone?  I heard this wonderful advice yesterday from a friend. When things are stressful, when someone is hurting, when YOU are hurting, apply a hug.

Instructions:
Find someone to hug.

  • Apply a hug.
  • Hold in position with arms firmly around the hurting person.
  • Apply pressure to the wound (typically the heart).
  • Repeat as necessary.

Amazingly, this simple concept can melt hearts, heal wounds and bring people together.

Oh, and here’s one reminder.

No WORDS necessary!
COST: Free!

I have felt many times in my life that the anger or the frustration I GET from people is because they are hurting. The anger or frustration that I GIVE to others sometimes is because… yep, you guessed it, I am hurting.

There are a lot of hurting people in our world. There are a lot of broken people in our world.

It can be tough to see hurt people. It can be easy to hear them. I’m sure you have.

  • In the grocery store.
  • On an airplane.
  • Over the telephone.
  • In your kitchen.

People who are hurting usually cry out in one way or another for help, or for someone to console them.

Sometimes it is hard to love them when they cry out in a nasty way. I used to think, “Why can’t everyone just be nice?” Well, sometimes when people hurt too much it is hard to be nice. It is easier to be mean, to be sarcastic, to say horrible things, or to play the “victim”.

Unfortunately, the tough part about spotting hurting people who need a hug is that the emotions or reactions I mentioned above keep us from leaning in. Rather, we decide to stay away.

I had an example of this behavior earlier this evening. I was talking to my dad. He has been so incredibly lonely since we lost my mom 2 ½ years ago. He is now 83 years old and unfortunately, his body is reminding him that he is 83 years old. It must be brutal. I had gone to a place of judgement with my dad…. until tonight.

It hit me that he just needs a hug. He needs someone to say, “I’m so sorry that x, y or z is going on with you.” “I love you and I will send up some extra prayers for you tonight…” (since his newest physical ailment prevents him from sleeping). The poor guy. He just needs a hug. He needs some love from someone who cares.

It is hard (but possible) to give a hug over the phone. I tried it tonight. Guess what? It worked. The tough guy broke into tears. His heart melted. Mine did too.

There is something so therapeutic about hugging someone. I can’t explain it, but it worked for my husband and me just yesterday, and for my father and me today (1,900 miles apart).

Try it. When in need, when feeling blue, when feeling angry…

  • Find someone to hug.
  • Apply a hug.
  • Hold in position with arms firmly around the hurting person.
  • Apply pressure to the wound (typically the heart).
  • Repeat as necessary.

It could change your life… or at least your day!

~Anne